India Needs Nationalism… Softer Nationalism

I am not opposed to nationalism and will never be. Was born into a tradition that believed India to be the greatest nation in the world. We have been taught about the ‘Sone ki chidiya’ that once enlightened the world with its wealth of knowledge and showed military excellence too. We were taught that the nation is more diverse than the colors on the spectrum and what binds us all is that one word, one blood that runs through our veins- India. We were taught that our India is the greatest and the best. Nothing compares to India. No matter how far away you are from India, you will always love its ‘mitti ki khusbu’. Everything about India needs to be loved.

However, the nationalism that we are witnessing on television and social media everyday is not the kind of nationalism I support. Since when did silencing those who dissent became nationalism. Our country was great in the past but currently, we are a developing nation that is plagued by hundreds of problems. We are a nation that still needs to focus on poverty, unemployment, farmers committing suicides, women being raped and men being forced to bribe for a better future. We have to uplift millions who do not get a morsel to eat. We have to uplift millions more who were oppressed for being dalit. We have to be more respectful to the people who fought for Indian Independence and even more respectful to the people who helped the infant nation crawl while several other economies were being born (and failing) every other day.

My country needs nationalism. We need nationalism that is softer and more constructive. We need nationalism that helps us in being better humans. We need to ensure that we always focus on the future. The people who are finding flaws with everyone who does not agree with the government and calling them anti-nationals, probably do not understand that we are not living in the 1970s. At this moment, India is one of the most sought-after economic destinations in the world (it could at least strive to become so). The world watches India closely. They are keeping an eye of how this nation handles its problems. If we fail as a nation and keep fighting with each other, we will put a black spot on our hard earned reputation

So why do we still need nationalism?

We need nationalism because it is important for a nation like ours to stay united. However, nationalism should never be confused with homogeneity. We can expect all the people living on this land to feel India with every heartbeat but we cannot dictate their lives. We should let everyone be. Let them live in peace and exercise whatever religion they follow. Ideologies are never destructive unless they lock horns with other ideologies. As a matter of fact, this nationalism binds us together but does not strangle us.

Nationalist and not strong, you must be kidding?

No I am not kidding. I am serious about what I say. Our nationalism should be about working together. Our nationalism should be about working twice as hard to enhance the GDP of the nation. Our nationalism should be introducing tax measures that does not burden our citizens. Our nationalism should be about making every child, every adult of the nation and also our tourists feel safe in our boundaries. Our nationalism should be about increasing production, being industrious, helping our farmers, giving a helping hand to the downtrodden and enlightening at least one person to love the nation that they are born in. This nationalism is not forced down our throat. This nationalism becomes the environment that we thrive in and helps us in making India shine in the true sense of the word.

My mother used to tell me that a nation like Japan excelled in so many areas simply because of an industrious workforce. They did not excel because they belonged to a certain religion or caste, they excelled because they got down to work. Germany could rebuild itself because of people. What about our people? Our students are not being trained well, our new workforce is not well educated despite spending lakhs and our old workforce has not been able to completely update itself. While we are busy shouting about our nationalism on Twitter and Facebook, our the ‘people’ who are building India are silently working. They are doing their bit to make millions proud while you and me shout, scream and proclaim we are nationalists while we are bunking schools, colleges and ditching our work. Who are you kidding?

We Can Make A Choice

So it was only a few hours ago that I was talking about being a dependent personality and suffering from self-victimization behavior. I was reading the post just now and realized how so many women around me are partly indulging in this behavior and becoming something they are not. I won’t suggest that I have never done this. I have for sure. I have also become clingy, posssessive and jealous for a short moment in time before I shrugged it all off and asked everyone to f*** off so I can focus on my goals.

Is it inherent in us, as women, to feel like a victim? Has it been ingrained in women to feel like they can easily fall prey to anything and everything? Yes, we are delicate flowers. Yes, we like to ensure that we stay happy and also try our best to keep everyone around us happy. Yes, we want the good things in life. But does that delicate sweetness of a woman necessarily needs to be accompanied by a sense of victimization. It is partly because women are often considered victims of their family, their friends, their boyfriends, husbands, kids, in-laws… everyone. It is partly because only a small number of women get to make a choice. Only a very small number.

Making choices can be so difficult. On many occasions, a woman’s choice will certainly piss someone off. That someone will be very close to her. The poor woman will certainly give a thought to the dissent and suddenly, she has transformed into a victim. A man, on so many occasions, gets to make a choice for his life and not be accountable or answerable for it. Not saying that things don’t happen otherwise but look at the structure of any middle class Indian family and you will see how true these words are.

We can make a choice. Who asked us to keep everyone happy all the time? Who asked us to look after everyone? Who asked us to pay heed to every opinion we come across and then silently cry on our beds with our teddy bears meekly trying to hug us back while we are clinching our fists, trying to cope with us a situation. I hope we all can make a choice and stop being a victim. Feminism of the west has given us nothing I say. They have killed the dignity of a woman and turned her into an object. Nobody respects a woman with brains unless her brains are used to seduce a rich man to marry her. Women with brains are not welcome. Women with big butts are surely welcome everywhere. Work out to get that booty in shape while I go and work on…. well, I will work on work.

Come On, Woman!

Talking about self victimization today and realizing how all of my examples (or my real life experiences with such victimization) are connected only with women. Yes, i mean women and women alone. There is not a single instance I can recall at the moment where a man played the role of a victim. The reasons could be many. Firstly, men rarely if ever are so emotional if they talk and secondly, it could be unmanly to be the victim. So I am not assuming directly that being a victim is a womanly thing to do. However, it is quite possible that the roots of such victimization are deep in our culture. Anyway, not talking much about the background, here we go and talk about the things that matter more.

The ‘Victim’ Behavior


As far as I see, self victimization is less about ‘being’ the victim and more about ‘playing’ the victim. I have come across so many people who are completely healthy, fit and have a good life but would not leave a chance to suggest and even to prove that they are a victim to their circumstances or to the people around them. Maybe one day (about 20 years ago) her father forgot something significant. Maybe today her husband did not come back home smiling. Maybe her kids are simply stressed out with their studies, exams and jobs and just don’t feel like talking at the moment. The victim will instantly believe that it is about her. She has probably done something wrong. More often, they have done something wrong to her because she does not deserve to be treated well. Yes, all these thoughts pass through her mind.

The victim thinks that everything that is going on around her is simply to let her down. She controls nothing around her and this is why she is being dragged around in any direction that the people around her wish to. You simply cannot give her power for she will want this power to be exercised by someone else. It is always the other person who has to take a decision for her. She cannot decide anything on her own. She feels left behind most of the time and would even indulge in some kind of reckless and absolutely senseless behavior just to believe that she is a part of the group. Often, when facing a situation that needs firm decision making, she would end up taking the wrong decision simply because playing the victim is easier than being the controller. She has done this all the time and she is aware of the ins and outs of the game.

She blames herself for everything and needs constant reassurance that she is loved and wanted. No matter what you do for her, it will never be enough. Maybe you died for her. You did the wrong thing. You should have lived to make yourself look like a miserable existence. She will find ways to find faults with herself. This woman has a keen eye for faults. The good news is that she finds faults in herself as easily as she finds them with others. The sad part is that most of these faults are imaginary. The bittersweet relationship that you will have with her becomes a downward spiral. Most of the times, she is depressed. As time passes by, it becomes difficult by the day to drag her out of this spiral. You either want a relief away from her or you simply enter the spiral yourself. Some people would prefer to speak out openly about this. The victim will stop playing the victim openly. She will still be the same from the inside.

Why A Victim?


Some experts blame it on genetics while some others consider it a part of the Dependent Personality Disorder affected by circumstances. I personally support the latter. Some people are definitely more dependent on others for keeping them happy (and sad). Imagine being with someone who would be happy when you pay attention to them and do nothing for them but turns extremely negative when you move your eyes. Sometimes, they become possessive and it is difficult to let things go. A couple of women I know who clearly exhibit this victimization are born and raised in families where being self dependent or taking independent decisions for life is not the norm. In fact, the parents also exhibit a very weird personality. On one hand, they are extremely controlling and protecting when it comes to their children. On the other hand, they are meek and submissive and cannot take the right decisions for themselves. The children, who are raised by such parents often end up taking a few decisions for themselves. Most of the times they are wrong. However, in general, the kids too are extremely dependent on someone for their happiness.

The dependency is such that rests on one or maybe a couple of people at a time. There is never a full span of attention. They focus their entire energy on one person or a couple of people at one time. Occasionally, their minds would digress and they would try to find solace in the sympathizing words of a another person but they would again like to come back to the stronger personality to lean on. After all, not needing anyone (including the victim) is also a sign of strength and this draws them towards that person. No wonder, a lot of women stay in abusive relationships even when they can leave simply because they love the thrill or dependency on a very strong (however forceful and abusive) personality. They like to stay close to a person who is quick, harsh and focused because they know that they cannot do this on their own.

Playing a victim also helps you in steering clear of the blame on most occasions. Imagine, being a part of everything without having to take the blame for anything that goes wrong. A victim, in her senses or not, wants to steer clear of responsibilities and answerability. On most occasions, you will find a person with such a dependent and self-victimizing personality working on jobs that do not let them take on a huge responsibility. They like doing the chores and have absolutely no problem in fitting into a mechanical routine. Moreover, the dependent and self-victimizing personalities I know are passive aggressive as well. They could end up being somewhat manipulative too. They get quickly attached to the stronger personalities around them and when they are rejected by them, they feel ill at ease. They may get depressed.

An inherent depression is always present in a self-victimizing person. Small bouts of this depression appear when they are focusing their attention on someone and do not get as much back. The depression is mostly in full swing when they are left desolate or rejected. Such a person needs help. The worst thing is that they are extremely clingy as well. They can cling to someone who helps them. If it is the opposite gender, they can quickly assume that the help is love and then problems will be given an open invitation to wreck a havoc in their lives.

In the end, they become what they thought they are in the first place – A VICTIM.

Periods, Mothafu****

So what is the biggest, biggest problem with PCOS? Periods. Yeah! Aunt Flo is always angry when you have PCOS. For some women, she is hyperactive and for the rest… she prefers not to visit them often. Who am I? I used to be the one who was visited by her for 3 days in a 28 day cycle. She did not bother me a bit and went as easily as she came. Everything was cool. Now, we have developed a love-hate relationship. She visits less often and makes sure that she gives me some real painful and irritating time all the while.

So without going into further details, let us discuss what you can do in order to make your dear Aunty visit frequently and also make her stay more bearable. Remember, no medications, no playing with the hormones and no unnecessary BS. Follow these simple rules for the beginning. They would prime your body for a better period and would also help to regularize them. Let’s get started.

  • M2 Tone Syrup

this is an ayurvedic syrup that would work like magic in making your periods more regular. Have used this syrup and it seriously works. Though M2 Tone is also available in tablet form, the syrup is always the better choice. You would find it in any ayurvedic medication store and even general drug stores keep it. The syrup needs to be taken 2-3 times a day (one spoonful). I would suggest you start with 1 spoonful, twice a day after meals.

The syrup was suggested by an ayurvedic doctor, who has been practicing for 40 years now and he was so right about things. Your cycles would become regular and you would notice visible changes in your periods within 3 months only. Consume for 6 months straight for good results. I was not able to continue for more than 3 months in a row last year. However, this time, I am quite determined to continue for 6 months.

  • Vajrasana

Vajrasana is done after you have had food. Vajrasana after the breakfast, lunch or dinner for as long as you can maintain the asan would be a great choice. This asana is very simple. You just have to sit with your knees bent (quite the way you see Japanese people sit at their homes, watch Doraemon to see how Nobita’s mother sits while calculating the bills to get an idea or just watch a Youtube video). It is simple, but it is quite difficult to sit in that position for long in the beginning. Don’t worry, practice would make you perfect. Vajrasana would not only help with digestion but would also help in your periods.

These two tips would help you get started. So make sure that you start inculcating these two things in your lifestyle. You would soon start getting great results for sure. Try it at least for one month to get the best results. I will discuss the rest of the tips later. Don’t consume too much information and just follow these two tips religiously. They would really help you.

A 1000 Times More Beautiful

It happened very long ago and I suddenly remembered the incident that was buried in my heart for all these years. I was not intending to remember it but my heart is not too good at building a dam on hurtful things that I have heard till date. Keeping it buried for too long would have hurt me more so this needs to come out.

So a very long time ago, I knew this guy. I would not go into the details of how I know him and why he said what he said but whatever he suggested confused me. It hurt me for sure but it confused me more. He told me that he was seeing a girl who was ‘a 1000 times more beautiful than me’. My response was a cold and confused ‘oh!’ It did not come with a sigh. My mind was blocked completely after he uttered these words. I do not remember what he said next. I don’t remember how and when I hung up the phone. I kept thinking for a few minutes, lying on my bed and staring at the fan, quietly rotating above my head. Then I buried those words, forever, so I do not find them for a lifetime.

So what was I thinking for those 10 minutes?

He said that she was a 1000 times more beautiful… a 1000 times. So, on a scale of beauty, if she stood on a 1000, I was… I scored a mere, meagre, small and insignificant 1. Just 1. Oh! So that was the thing. I was not beautiful, not even close to being beautiful. Did he say it on purpose? Did he wish for me to feel humiliated? Was it just a chance remark?

 

I knew that I was not one of the prettiest faces around but I thought my face was good enough. Not that bad, just average if nothing else. The shape of my face, the complexion of my skin, the way my lips pouted just a little naturally and the way my hair was neither black nor brown, neither straight nor curly… I thought these things were unique and even if I don’t appeal to people’s beauty standards, I would at least not be overlooked. I was not ugly.

But a score of 1? It all starts at 0 and I scored just 1. Why? I could have scored better. How does she look? Now that he has told me my score, I know what 1 looks like. I want to know what a 1000 looks like. Maybe she is… I don’t know. 

 

I started rating women and girls I knew…

What would her score be? Maybe 10. And what about that girl…? Umm… maybe a 100… no maybe 200. Yeah! She is so strikingly beautiful. She just drives men crazy. No… No… she must be a 500. I am wrong. 

 

Strange, he was using my face as a standard of beauty. Like I was a Lego brick. He had to keep 999 more of ‘me’ to define that 1 girl because she was a 1000 times more beautiful… yes, a 1000 times.

Shame! Just 1? I should have paid more attention to myself. I should have read beauty magazines instead of literature. I should have worked hard on my body instead of working hard on ‘being someone’. I am a girl. No one cares if I have a career or if I am successful but people do care about my beauty. I should have paid attention. How could I do such injustice to myself? How could I ignore it? Why do I not apply mascara? Why are my eyes adorned with large nerdy glasses instead of beautiful and thick lashes and some beautiful kohl to make those eyes… those eyes look more beautiful…? I could have scored at least a 100. 

 

What is strange about this? Nothing. Suddenly, I heard someone knocking. It was the courier boy. He had brought some books. Oh! I finally got a coffee table book about Hindu Gods! Not that I am super religious, but I find mythology interesting. My brain started processing his remarks as ‘junk’ while I was busy checking out the books and see how I remember these things now…

PCOS Hair Loss- Eliminating Loss

There is no doubt that PCOS makes your hair become frizzy and more prone to breaking. A lot of women simply start losing all their hair. Everytime they comb their hair, they find hundreds of innocent strands that were uprooted from the scalp without much ado. I have faced the same problem. While the hair is growing gracefully and not showing a sign of lack of strength, it is the hair on your scalp that faces one issue after the other. When you have an enviable mane, it feels quite inadequate to find that you are left with merely a third of what you used to have a year ago. It is frustrating as hell. Whether you wash your hair or comb it, you will find nothing but strands falling out. Even lightly running fingers through them would mean trouble.

So what did I do?
 
As frustrated as I was with my medications and depressed schedule, I thought about giving my hair a second chance. This meant that I have my hair routine a careful thought and then started with a another, sane routine that genuinely helped me grow a nice mane again. You can try this too. Hope they will help.
1. Oil your hair- regularly
When I was in school, oiling was a regular thing. It happened almost every other day and my hair remained as good as you can imagine. Even if I had a haircut that I knew I would regret, it did not bother me much. Simply because the hair used to grow so fast that one would easily forget how I looked about a month ago. Well, school ended and so did the oiling routine.
So, I brought back the old habit. My hair is now being oiled fairly regularly. Of course, I do not do it every second day, but I do it at least twice a week. Meanwhile, I massaged the scalp for as long as I possibly could. I massaged each and every part of the scalp, especially the places where I used to lose hair the most. Then, I tried to show some love to the hair strands as well. My hair quality became very poor and it was quite dull, dry and frizzy. It used to look very rough as well. So these strands also needed a lot of conditioning. Therefore, I massaged the strands as well, right till the ends. This meant that my head was always covered in oil but then the hair was liking this routine. So, I did not complain about it.
The result- silkier, thicker hair with less hair fall. Just make sure you show some love and don’t massage like you hate your scalp. Take a little oil on your palm and rub it gently for about 10 seconds before application. Then use the tips of your fingers to massage the oil into your hair. The palms should be used to oil the length of the hair. You can use any oil that you like- coconut, olive, almond, amla (gooseberry) or even sarso. Whatever suits your hair would do. The safest choice could be coconut oil. Olive oil and sarso oil is really heavy but works like wonder while almond and amla oils are lighter. A great product I came across was Biotique’s Bhringraj Oil. Coconut oil could be parachute, but Vatika coconut oil comes enriched with other ingredients which is quite a nice thing to apply to your hair.
2. Avoid chemicals
Yes, I mean that you should not opt for straightening or coloring your hair. Avoid any kind of chemical hair treatments. However, there is something more harmful that you need to stay away from. Shampoos and conditioners along with leave-on treatments could be very harmful for your hair. Hence, you should always use mild shampoos. As a person who is habitual of washing her hair every day (I mean it!!! when you bathe, you wash your hair or you don’t bathe at all :P). Okay, so I ditched all the shampoos that graced my bathroom closet and brought in the good ol’ Clinic Plus. Now, this is not a shampoo that people recommend to each other, but trust me it works. It is a very mild shampoo and would not harm your hair as much. They also have a nice conditioner which makes your hair quite smooth.
I have experienced more frizz with Tresemme Keratin Smooth Shampoo and Conditioner than I felt with Clinic Plus. It is mild enough for everyday use and so far, I have not found a single reason to throw it out of my house. So maybe you can try this shampoo. If not, find something milder. There are a ton of Ayurvedic Shampoos around. I tried the one from Patanjali (Baba Ramdev’s venture) and it was the most baffling thing I had used in my lifetime. My hair became pathetic. It was dry and frizzy and most importantly, it looked dirty. So, even though I am very fond of dreadlocks, I did not want a shampoo to do this to me.
There are many more hair care tips that I have to share but not right now! First, you need to try these two tips for at least 2 weeks. I can guarantee that they would work. Once done, we will go ahead. Keep yourself updated with new artice

From 96 to 82- A PCOS Weight Loss Story

There is probably nothing that can make a woman so miserable in the society than being called ‘fat and ugly’. Of course, they would not dare to call this to my face, but they would certainly speak this behind my back. It looks like nothing I have done, achieved and won makes any sense unless I am slim. Why? I do not understand. I never intended to lose weight. I have always been the chubbiest in my circle. Short and chubby… yeah! That is how you define me. They wanted me to do what they wanted- drink green tea thrice a day, exercise in the gym for hours and look more miserable while hopelessly trying to lose a few pounds. One of the most heartbreaking things that I have gone through.

So am I just another fat girl?

No. I have a little business of my own and I employ a lot of ‘slim, fit and attractive’ people. I have never felt that I was not attractive enough. I had no reason to. Applying lipstick was not my way of being attractive. I thought my wit, humor and intelligence mattered more and as long as I have these three, I would keep swimming the tide, for or against, and keep winning. I have still not budged and inch from this value. I believe in it completely. So even when I am surrounded by the most attractive ladies and gents, I prefer to flash a big, broad smile instead of standing there in the corner, quietly wishing that nobody notices me while clicking cool pictures. That is just not my personality.

How did I gain weight?

Well, as I said before, I was nothing short of a chubby or plump girl since childhood. My size was a little bigger than other girls my age and I was totally not concerned with it. Not to mention that weight was never a problem for me. I was a fairly active girl and even played cricket (Six A-Side, just for fun in school). You could make me run a mile or two without me complaining about it. I could run, I could walk and I was still left with some energy to hop 4 km to my home from school, just because I liked solitary walks around that peaceful neighborhood.

Then came PCOS and the weight gain, which was quite subtle and reasonable all through the years became a huge issue for me. I was an adult girl, working day and night on a dream. I enjoyed the occasional indulgence in the best foods in the best restaurants around town, but maintained a rather homely and simple diet still. I was already quite stressed because of the odds of establishing a business from scratch and then I was a patient of a syndrome that does not let you live in peace. I have spent countless days and nights in extreme pain, both physical and emotional, while trying really hard to be someone.

However, all that I tried was making me go in the wrong directions. The medications made me a couch potato (yeah! Seriously). I could hardly walk a 100 meters and even climbing one flight of stairs to my room on the second floor was a pain. Still managed and struggled with it all, until one day when all my clothes started to grow tighter. They were no longer a good fit and I could no longer go and shop, anything that I wanted for myself, without being embarrassed about my size. That night, I could hardly sleep because I was becoming what everyone hated ‘a fat and ugly girl’.

The next morning, I checked my weight and it was a number I only loved in my school papers -96 kilograms. Damn! When did I grow so fat? I am FAT. I am ugly. Nobody loves me. After almost a couple years of consuming all sorts of medications to lose weight and manage PCOS, I was left with a miserable cycle and an even worse number of the scale. Who could have imagined such a stupid thing to happen to me. I had already stopped consuming any medications, about 5 months ago. It was a reckless decision of a girl who was fed up of everything in her life except work. I was feeling much better after those medications went straight to the dustbin. I was emotionally stable now and thought that I had more energy than I had all through these 2 years. I was just happy about my decision. But this excessive weight gain made me more concerned. I thought my body was going to explode.

What did I do?

Nothing, to be honest. You must be waiting for me to tell you a great diet plan and an exercise routine that would make you lose weight quick. I am sorry. It is nothing like that. Exercising was like losing whatever energy I had to survive through the day and dieting (basically starving) was not my kind of a thing. So what did I do?

Here is the secret- it is called natural and holistic living. My 14 kg weight loss happened within a sport span of merely 7 months. On an average, I lost about 2 kg per month. That was a great thing. It is easier to lose the initial few pounds. However, if you want to live a healthier life, you have to make some genuinely healthy changes instead of following fads your doctors and other ‘well-wishers’ are feeding you with. This is what all I did. I hope that if you girls include these steps in your life, you would also be feeling much better. I can certainly guarantee a better life and I promise that your quality of life would improve manifold. These steps are simple and we all know about them, but forget too easily. So try them.

1. Drink fluids- I have binged more on water than on my beloved ‘barfi’. I used to drink close to 5-6 liters of water in a day. I don’t know why I did that. I was just habitual of sipping water all the time. If you drink too less, you will be dehydrated and that would be just too much. However, for a person like me with a very sedentary lifestyle, I thought 5-6 liters were way too much. So I curbed the intake to about 3 liters in a day. I was still well hydrated, but maybe this time, I was not losing out on any essential vitamins that were simply being lost in urine before they were absorbed. I must have lost a lot of water weight too, because of which things were quite motivating in the beginning.

2. Sleep on time- I have a habit of waking up between 5 am to 7 am. I do not remember a day when I opened my eyes past 7 am (exceptions are less in number, way too less). I sleep around 10 pm. It sometimes goes up to 11 but never beyond that and try to wake up by 6. I am an early bird so waking up early in the day is not a problem for me. The more I stuck to this simple schedule, the more energy I had and the more weight I lost. It is crazy, but your body needs rest and all those hormones that have gone terribly wrong also need some time to come back to normal. So sleep your way to weight loss.

3. Eat healthier- prefer green veggies. I already love oranges and pineapples so they have become a staple in my diet. Vitamin C is helpful in losing weight and it did the trick on me. White flour or ‘Maida’ was completely eliminated from the diet and I also stayed away from all ‘white’ foods including dairy and poultry for about 2 months.

4. Eat till you are full- this works better than anything else. Don’t eat less because that would help you lose weight. Instead, eat more and fill your tummy. That would help you avoid stupid snack binging. Never leave home without a breakfast and ensure that it is a filling and healthy too. Opt for whole grains whenever you can and ensure that your tummy is full. I am very, very serious about this. Being hungry does not make you healthy. So choose nutrition over calories and eat for heaven’s sake. Starvation always goes wrong.

5. Nutrition is important- your body needs a lot of macro and micro nutrients. Alas! The micro-nutrients, though important, are always given less importance. I will talk about essential micro-nutrients in later posts. At this moment, you should be focusing on getting nuts, oatmeals and indigenous grains in your diet. My region has a special flour made known as ‘koda’. This golden-brown flour is not just healthy, but also filling. Moreover, it is plain delicious. Sabudana, for example, is made of Tapioca and you can easily replace white rice with it. Indigenous varieties of rice (wild rice, usually reddish brown in color’ is also a great option that can be used to make your diet healthier. Smaller quantities of these grains are more filling, satisfying and full of micro-nutrients as well.

Roasted or plain nuts are a great option for you. If you want to have pasta/noodles etc. someday, don’t consider this a sin. You can certainly have what you like. However, make sure that you include as many veggies in these dishes so that you can get some nutrition boost as well. Avoid overcooking the food. Undercooked food is also a pathetic choice. Ensure that you do not re-heat food.

6. No processed foods- I swear they are bad as hell. So no processed foods as at. Ready-to-eat meals, instant noodles etc. are all a big no. Chips and cookies? No way. No matter how healthy all these foods proclaim to be, they are simply not. So make sure that you don’t eat them. Colas, sodas and other drinks are also not allowed here. They simply don’t work in your favor. Use lemon water or coconut water if plain water is not for your taste buds, but don’t binge on these drinks.

7. A little movement- yes! even if you are not on a massive exercise routine, you can lose weight. Just bring some movement to your life. Walk the stairs someday, walk around the neighborhood someday, buy your groceries yourself someday and just walk around the house on the other days. Dancing is cool too. Try to stand up after an hour or so of sitting and take a small walk, even if in your own cabin or room. Stretch a bit and then get back to work. Stand while talking on the phone or walk. You can find movement in any way you like. Just start doing it.

8. Be happy- come on! be happy. You would never do anything good or positive unless you remain happy. Remove unwanted people and things from your life. Clear the clutter and find a confidante who can help you get rid of emotional baggage. Our emotions trigger our physiological reactions as well. So staying a gloomy, sad and depressed girl will never help. Get up and get going. Hang out with your friends, have some fun. Stress, guilt and feelings of loss have never done anything good for anyone. Remember, a disease or a syndrome always starts with your brain (or emotions). So why not clear your foggy brain that is trying to find a way for the future through the cobwebs of your past. Stay happy and you will be healthy.

There could be scientific explanations as to why I was able to lose weight and be generally healthy because I adopted such a lifestyle and I honestly am not the right person to explain these things to you. However, I express what I have done and experienced. This is only the tip of the iceberg. I would continue to share thoughts, insights and experiences with you. My weight came down from 96 to 82 and it was an amazing experience, not because I was able to lose weight, but because I was able to do it without pushing my body to the limits.

At 82, the weight loss became a little more difficult. With another new idea that was coming to life, life became hectic and stressful. Still, I am trying to stay calm and also trying to maintain my schedule. I am glad that I did not gain weight and have been able to maintain it. At present, I weight about 80 kg. Have included selected pranayama and exercises in my schedule. These things and some herbal remedies will be discussed in later posts so that you all can benefit from my experiences. In the meanwhile, I wish you all a very happy and healthy life. If you have any questions related to PCOS like medications, home remedies, lifestyle solutions, diet and exercise, stress relief etc., then talk to me on Twitter @nehajoychauhan or mail at nehajoy28@gmail.com.